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The Turd in the Proverbial Punch Bowl

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Nothing is worse than getting a great work opportunity to suddenly find that some panty-waste has come up through the system with a position and ego the size of Houston, yet with the brain the size of a pigeon.  Oh!  But he knows his job well since he has been doing it seemingly since Jesus Christ first turned water to wine.  And to top it all off, you have somehow been positioned as this fellow’s subordinate.

Don’t get me wrong!  There is nothing wrong with people moving up in a company and becoming successful.  It’s what they do with that power and success that truly matters.  Do they become a symbol of great meaning in the lives of the people at all levels in their organization?  Or do they become a snobbish bully?

A lot of this, I personally feel, depends on their upbringing.  But some people will argue that it is their experience on the job that molds them into who and what they are.  Ideally, it is probably the balance of both.  For example, if you take a fellow who was constantly picked on as a kid and put him in a position of authority, there is a good likelihood that he will exert his power over others with an iron fist.  He will talk down and belittle his workers in an effort to get every bit of last sweat they can foster from their quivering brows.  However, if — somewhere along the line of his employment experience — a mentor takes him under his wing and grooms him to be a true leader, then it can all turn around for the better.  Unfortunately, in my experience over the years, it seems that the proverbial turd in the punch bowl has usually been the common situation…bosses who demean their employees for the simple reason that they simply can.

Fear not, if you are one of those employees who find themselves at the wrath of some unfortunate legend within his own mind, all is not as lost as it may seem.  It is all psychology!  And nothing will piss off this bullying individual more than you forcing him to watch you succeed.  But don’t let him beat you down mentally and emotionally.  And don’t let him see you sweat…no matter how hard he tries to buckle you over.

Show this ass-hat that RESPECT IS A TWO-WAY STREET!  You should always do what he says (or you will, of course, lose your job!); but anything that will DIRECTLY glorify him to his boss should be done with the same care and precision as he takes when it comes to making you feel good about yourself in the workplace.  However, everything that glorifies YOU to that same boss should be done with the utmost care and precision. Maybe with a little bit of firm diligence and and unwavering dedication to success you can become one of his peers and compete with him directly.  Who knows!  Maybe within a few years, the tables will have turned full circle and you will be his boss.  If that does happen, it may be tempting to redirect justice against him in the same manner that he did to you…but don’t give in.  Let him see that you truly are better than him…but most importantly, direct him to be better to those who look up to him.  Let him know that disrespect toward his subordinates will no longer be tolerated.  Spread the love and dispense with the hate.

Personally, I have always worked hard as ever for the bosses who treated me with respect.  I have always called them sir and ma’am as they deserved.  But once they demean me, all of this ends!  The bullies I have encountered have tried unsuccessfully to break me.  In my mind, I just tell myself:  As a Marine recruit at Parris Island, I survived drill instructors who could chew you up and spit you out in ways you could never hope to overcome.  These guys cussed me, kicked me, and mentally and emotionally abused me in ways you could never imagine.  You are NOTHING in comparison.  I was over you when you extended your first bit of abusive power and disrespect toward me.  You can do whatever the company will allow you to do to me.  But I can endure you without even a blink.

Never forget!  The true power of a manager lies within the people who work for him or her, and that is usually you and me.  

It should be common sense to all employers:  If you want your people to achieve winning results, then you better treat them with a winning sense of respect that fosters an overpowering sense of good morale within the entire workplace.  And if they achieve this, they need to weed out all these small-minded fools who contaminate an otherwise functional organization.

Just because there is a turd in the punch bowl, you do not have to take a drink from it.

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Sample from Chapter 1 of “The Girl on the Highway”

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Please enjoy this sample from my upcoming work of horror:  The Girl on the Highway !

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Tyrese Haroldson, the driver of the tanker, watched what appeared at first to be a dark shadow in the fog up ahead about 20 yards.  He suspected it could have been a motorcycle.  But then he noticed that this object was not moving.  Before he knew it, he saw the outline of an attractive woman’s figure in his lane directly in front of him!  She appeared to be in a slight daze as if maybe she had an accident.  She was dressed as if she were out at a night club on a Friday or Saturday night, wearing a skirt that stopped at the middle of her thighs, and a jacket that stopped just below her elbows.  A loose fitting shirt came down exposing generous cleavage.  Her outfit looked rather retro. 

But his mind immediately shifted into emergency mode as he realized he was going too fast and would surely hit her unless she was quick enough to dart out of the way!  But it appeared that she was frozen in shock, her eyes full of worry and horror.

“Holy shit,” he said as he turned the wheel hard clockwise in a knee-jerk response to miss the young lady.

His instructor saw her too and was in total shock.  Fear shot through his mind as he worried that a woman may have been run over by one of his students as he sat idle and useless in the passenger-side seat.  And this oversight went almost unnoticed until the whole cab seemed to tremble intermittently.  He then tried to grab the wheel and turn it back the way from which it had come, but it was already too late!

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Note this sample of literary work by Phil Sanderson is Copyrighted 2014 with all rights reserved.  

It’s a Mad World!

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If you had told someone 30 years ago that we would be carrying wireless phones which boast the capability of taking pictures, allow paying bills, permit shopping, allow playing video games, act as a flashlight, allow you to read electronic books, allow listening to music, allow watching of videos, allow the receiving of electronic messages, and offer free long-distance, they would have looked at you crazy and asked you how much doobage you had been smoking!

Today’s technology, on the surface, looks like a wonderful, amazing, and wonderfully amazing thing!  But is it really that good for us?  After all, many people feel as though it makes us lazy and complacent.  Now people are able to shop online with their phones and personal computers.  That does save gasoline and wear and tear on your shoes.  But the downside is that you deprive yourself of healthy exercise.  And you also have to be patient and wait for your product to arrive and hope it arrives in top condition.  In some cases, you have to pay for that shipping.  So, sure!  It’s definitely convenient.  But is it really worth the cost of our health, overall condition of your new product, and the labor used to deliver it?  To some, perhaps.  But to others, definitely not!

Technology is not the only thing muddling up our now complicated lives.  United States tax laws are more unfair than ever before, allowing the rich to stay rich while keeping everyone else in the struggling classes.  Tax laws  are more complicated than Chinese arithmetic!  Our justice system is shot to hell and needs to be put down like a rabid animal.  Nowadays, we have the best justice system that money can buy.  You used to be able to retire at the age of 65.  But because people are living longer (lifespan now is 80-years old where it used to be 70), people are having to work longer.  Sometimes it makes me wonder if I really should be thankful for the advancements in medicine.

Things used to be so much simpler when the cost of living was not higher than people’s salaries.  One spouse used to be able to stay home and handle household duties and supervising the children until the other — the primary breadwinner — got home from work.  Now it takes dual income in order to live even the slightest bit comfortably.  And because parents today are not able to spend as much time with children, many children get involved with friends who aren’t the most savory to parents.  Thus they sometimes end up being criminals at a young age.

Do we really want our youth here in America to earn the criminal label before they become adults?  It doesn’t help that teachers are now so knee-deep in paperwork requirements that they barely have time to grade their papers, much less spending one-on-one time with each pupil or student.

Add to this the fact that most companies are under the gun in meeting financial goals that they now only care more about a person’s production than they do their livelihood.  Thus, many employees get unfairly fired and have to find ways to support their families.  It is no wonder that some of them end up robbing banks, snatching purses, and dealing drugs in order to feed their family.  I remember when you could work somewhere and the boss really showed how much he cared for his workers, and it was mostly genuine and not just a put-on.

Finally, debt has become an American staple in modern life.  Our government serves as the perfect example of inept spending quite possibly exceeding other countries in this area.  And most American adults are now in debt.  Many more nowadays are filing bankruptcy due to this spend what you don’t have American culture.  Credit card and loan companies get away with tempting people into situations in which they do not need to be.  And on top of this misdeed, they are allowed to charge exorbitant fees.

So technology — however good and impressive it is — still does not forgive the fact that life is now more complicated than it really needs to be.  Whatever happened to humanity and compassion in day-by-day society.  I truly believe it has gone extinct.

 

Men: How You Can Train Your Inner Dog!

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Most, if not all women, have heard the old saying:  All men are dogs!

But as men, we all know this is simply not true.  Because how can we be dogs when dogs are man’s best friend?

I propose that all men have an inner dog within him.  The dog comes out more and more as we go through puberty and beyond.  From there, it is up to us to eventually tame this dog lest it wrestle control from our general psyche, making us do and say foolish things that we may or may not live to regret.  Some men want to let the dog run free and hump the leg of every beautiful woman who crosses his path.  Others prefer to gradually introduce this inner dog to a woman of deep interest in hopes that she will eventually decide that she likes the dog.  In places like England, Ireland, Scotland, Australia, and New Zealand, many men freely allow and encourage their dogs to chase pussy from one end of the town to the other!  Some men have completely given up on training their inner dog after having tried.  Sadly enough, some men don’t even realize they have an inner dog.  And they never realize it until they do something totally regretful.  In my personal case, I was single and made a vow to God in prayer that I would never bed a married woman.  Never mind the fact that premarital sex is a sin in the Bible!  Well, one night, under the spell of Red Dog and the enchantment of a woman who I’d kissed before noticing a wedding ring on her finger, I broke that vow.

Many men out there know just what I am talking about.  Maybe some of them have made complete asses of themselves before they realized that there was this little obnoxious and annoying puppy in their inner being.  Eventually, a puppy becomes a dog.  And the dog eventually may reign supreme…or so it seems.

I’m here to tell you:  You can teach an old dog new tricks!

In the Marine Corps, I used to be one of the most hopeless womanizers.  I should have been in school, getting a bachelor degree at the base educational facility.  But I was in the bars instead, carousing and chasing the fairer sex.  Eventually, I met my ex-wife and my current wife.  And, sure!  I had a period of wildness between my divorce and my second marriage.  To me, it was a good time to let my dog off its leash.

Anyone who knew me when I was single would probably have never guessed that I would be one of the most faithful men a woman could ever hope to marry.  And my ex-wife and wife both know that I am a truly honorable husband.

So how did I go from being the canine king to the faithful husband of the year?  I trained my inner dog.  And here is how you can too:

Single man dog training:

  • Don’t get involved with anyone with whom you work!  It may seem cool and exciting at first, but there is nothing cool about getting shit-canned because you dipped your pen in company ink.  Just try feeding your dog when you don’t have any money coming in!
  • Don’t mix business with pleasure.  Because the people with whom you work may be able to get dirt on you to use at a later date.
  • Always wear a condom during sexual encounters.  A pregnant woman either becomes your wife or rich on your tab.  Keep in mind that every father should make great efforts to support his children.  Getting married can also crimp your lifestyle if you are not ready for it.  In this case, your dog may not just roll over; he may just roll over and play dead!
  • Control your liquor intake, or it will control you.  Your dog may just go barking up the wrong tree!  I found this out when I was drinking under age in 1989.  A gorgeous babe was staring at me from the other side of the bar.  So I just walked up to her and started kissing her.  I thought things were going very well until I felt a tap on my shoulder.  Next thing you know, I turn and get sucker punched.  To add insult to injury, I was too drunk to defend myself.  If I had been more sober, maybe I would have realized this girl was at the bar with her boyfriend who ended up not taking too well to seeing us kissing.
  • When you are wasted, do not get behind the wheel of a vehicle.  You really should not even do it if you have had anything to drink.  But I got into the habit of tossing my keys into the air and seeing if I could catch them as I walked out to my car.  I never did have trouble catching them.  And I never did get pulled over and busted for having been drinking.

Married man dog training:

  • Never allow yourself to be alone with another woman other than your wife in enclosed quarters.  If you have to, be sure to leave a door open so that you may be able to have witnesses if the time ever comes for that.  A good witness comes in handy when your watch dog isn’t watching closely enough.
  • Never let your dog go where it doesn’t need to be.  Just as you would never let your dog run around in the streets, you need to watch where you maintain your company.  Married men have no business being in bars.  Some men think that wearing a wedding ring in a bar will keep women from hitting on them.  Actually it is quite the opposite.  Many women take great pride in luring men away from their marriages and in between their sheets.  Neither do they have any business being in their home with only another woman who is not their wife.  Likewise, they should not be in another dwelling alone with another woman who is not their wife.
  • Don’t fall for society’s stimulating suggestiveness.  Women wearing next to nothing advertising whatever it is they are advertising is likely to make your dog drool.  Be strong!  Don’t let your dog go anywhere near such advertising, no matter how much it tempts you to stare.  Television shows now glorify cheating on your spouse.  Talk about a sure way to get your dog into the doghouse if not put down altogether!
  • Always remember that honor is a rare commodity in today’s world.  Who says a dog cannot be a gentleman?  There is a painting of a bunch of dogs playing cards together.  So I guess this artwork blows that theory to hell!

These are some of the ways that I have trained my inner dog (at least as far as the married tips; for I used to always let my dog run stray when I was single!).  So what about your inner dog?  Is it ready for a Scooby Snack?

Test-Driving the Bible!

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We’ve all heard stories about how God has gone all out of the way to talk to certain individuals in the Holy Bible.  We have heard the story of how God spoke to Moses in the form of a burning bush.  Many people may actually try to attribute it to the rare possibility that maybe Moses sampled some wild mushrooms growing by a nearby tree.  But after what I experienced today, I don’t find it too hard — AT ALL — to believe Moses’ account, and the accounts of all others who have ever claimed that God spoke to them either directly or indirectly.

It all started this morning when my wife (from whom I’m currently separated at this time) told me how God spoke to her.  She said a prayer to God asking for him to speak to her directly, and she randomly opened the Bible and read a passage directly next to where her thumb rested.  And, low-and-behold!, the passage addressed something of vital importance in her life at this moment in time.

Not long after she told me of this, I started feeling really depressed today — in spite of it being my wedding anniversary.  The truth is, and I do not normally publish this anywhere in the public eye, I am very concerned with all the walls I’ve found in my path of being a successful writer, and also just in trying to survive period, while apart from my wife and daughter.  My local newspaper just told me that I do not rate any local news coverage due to the fact that I am “only a self-published writer”; and on top of all this, I’ve tried to find either full or part-time work, to no avail.  

Very recently, I have accepted a sales job dealing with supplemental work insurance for organizations; but this pays only when I sell it; and not even very much at all in the very beginning.  I’ve set several appointments, and every time I think I am getting closer to a “yes”, something happens to either delay it, if not cancel it altogether.  

Right now, I’m about one month away from my car payment becoming due, with nary and idea as to how I am going to pay it.  In summary and despite being a print-published author, I’ve been feeling like a total failure lately. 

So I opened up to my wife about all of this.  She just encouraged me to read the Bible for answers.  And when I remembered hearing of her success this morning with her quick test-drive of the Bible, I figured I would do the same.  So I picked up the very same Holy Bible she had used and prepared to give it a go with her right by my side.

As I held the Bible and prepared to open it, she reminded me:  “You need to be very sincere in your prayer.”

So I prayed:  “Dear Lord, I feel like a total failure lately.  And I need your security this very moment.  Please speak to me through your Holy Word with a message of hope.”

And when I opened the Bible and put my index finger down on one of the pages, I could not believe the message I went to!  I was so shocked that I did not even look at the verse.  But it basically said something to the effect that God will give me strength, and that even the strong who stand before me can become weak when God grants me His strength.  This is really all I can remember of it; and it may not have been in those exact words.  But upon reading them, I suddenly felt as though God had picked me up and embraced me, whispering in my ear that “all is going to be well.”  And I began to cry unabashedly as I held my wife.

Part of me is embarrassed in posting this.  After all, I’m a former Marine who is not supposed to appear weak at any given time.  But the truth is that even the strongest lose strength at times.  Satan works hard to make this happen in our lives.  

But the truth is that I do not just see my blog as an opportunity to promote myself, my image, and my books, but also as a way to say thank you to each and every one of you for giving this new fiction writer a fair chance in life.  And it is the least I can do to share my experience in this Biblical Test-Drive with you in hopes that maybe you will find similar comfort.  

Do I believe I can do this every day with the same result?  Most likely not.  I firmly believe that God sees us when we are at our most vulnerable point in our lives.  And I believe that if we approach him with the utmost sincerity and hunger for his spiritual healing, I believe that he will work strange miracles in our lives like the ones he just worked for me and my wife.  

I pray that those of you out there who are just as thirsty for his Word and need his comfort will perhaps try a similar test-drive of your own Bibles.  And if you do not believe, I pray that you will read this and be challenged to try the same thing just to see what happens.  You never know!  What’s the worst thing that could happen?  You and God could possibly become best buddies?